6 Steps for Personalizing Your Wedding Vows

Writing your own personalized wedding vows can be a daunting task, but it’s not quite as hard as it looks. Here are six easy steps that you can follow to write your own wedding vows. 
  1. Make sure that everyone is on the same page. Talk to your future spouse and your officiant and make sure everyone is okay with personalized wedding vows. Some religions require that you use traditional wording, while others will allow you to write your own, as long as you include certain phrases. You will also want to make sure that your sweetheart also wants to do it. While you’re at it, decide together whether you want to write one wedding vow that you will both say, or whether you want to write individually.                                              (Courtesy of McCoy Made Photography)
  2. Answer some simple questions Yep, it’s homework time. Sit down in a quiet space with paper and pen and answer these questions. Even if you don’t think the answer will end up in your wedding vows, still take the time to write it down. It may help you in the long run. If you encounter writer’s block, try taking a short break and know that you don’t have to write it all out at once. In fact, I suggest NOT writing it out all at once. 🙂 
    • What is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry?
    • When did you know that you were in love/ know that this person was the one you wanted to marry?
    • What does marriage mean to you? Why do you want to be a married person?
    • What will change about your relationship once you are married? What will stay the same?
    • What is your most favorite memory of your partner?
    • When you were little, did you dream of your wedding day or your future spouse? How does that vision match up (or not) with your sweetheart?
  3. Consult the experts Take some time to read through a variety of wedding vows, as well as passages of poetry, love stories, and famous writing about love (these are suggested for wedding readings, but include many quotes you could use in your vows.) Print out your favorites, and highlight passages that especially speak to you.
  4. Put it all together Go back to the words you wrote before, and highlight passages that you might want to include in your wedding vows. Now is the time to pare things down – select the very best of all the material you have to work with. Try taking a sentence or two from literature, add a sentence or two from the answers to the above questions, and finish with a vow – a sentence that begins “I promise” or “I vow”. For example, you might say: “Mary, as the poet Rilke said, ‘This is the miracle that happens every time to those who really love. The more they give, the more they possess.’ You are the most generous, loving, unselfish person I know. I fell in love with you the moment I first saw you with your daughter, treating her with such respect and giving her all of you. I feel so fortunate that you have chosen to share your love with me, and that I get to grow old next to you. Mary, today I choose you for my wife. I promise to love you, honor you, care for you, and be faithful to you, from this day forward and for the rest of our lives.”
  5. If that didn’t work, try filling in the blanks in a more simple vow. 
    (Name of your sweetheart), you are my (best friend, one true love, the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, etc.) Today, I take you to be my (wife, husband, lawfully wedded wife or husband, life partner, etc.) I promise you that I will be (faithful, worthy of your trust, worthy of your love, your loving partner, etc.) I vow to (honor you, cherish you, love you, respect you, laugh with you, cry with you, support you in your goals, etc.), (insert here the length of your vow, for example, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as we both shall live.)

    (Courtesy of Google! Isn’t she fun?)

  6. Practice, Practice, Practice First, try reading what you’ve written out loud to a trusted friend or family member. Ideally, this person will be someone who is a good writer, and someone who knows your relationship. They may have good suggestions for you, or the simple act of reading it out loud might help you identify places where you can improve. Once you’ve worked out a final version, practice reading it on your own, several times to make sure you are comfortable with it. Make sure that you write down your wedding vows on a note card (and give an extra copy to the best man or maid of honor!) so that nerves won’t spoil all of your hard work.
Good luck and happy planning!

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